Mark was waiting in the kitchen when I returned.
He had made lunch and left a plate on the counter.
I appreciated the gesture.
I also knew it would not settle the question between us.
"How did it go?"
"Well."
"Did Samuel tell you anything useful?"
"He answered my questions."
Mark leaned against the counter.
"About the money?"
"About the estate."
He looked disappointed.
"Clare, you know what I'm asking."
I put my bag on a chair.
"Yes, I do."
"Then why won't you tell me?"
"Because I'm not going to turn a conversation with the attorney into an estimate that we start treating as fact."
Mark's face hardened.
"That's a convenient answer."
I felt the old urge to defend myself.
Instead, I took the plate he had left for me and sat down.
The food was still warm.
I hadn't eaten much that morning.
For a few minutes, I concentrated on lunch.
Mark stayed in the kitchen.
Finally, he pulled out the chair across from me.
"Do you think I'm being selfish?"
I looked up.
It was the first time he had asked a question that sounded as though he genuinely wanted an answer.
"I think you made a decision about your job without talking to me."
He looked down.
"I was unhappy there."
"I know."
"And I thought we could finally afford to live differently."
"Maybe we can."
He raised his eyes.
"Then what's wrong with wanting that?"
"Nothing. What's wrong is deciding that your future is settled before we know the facts."
He sat quietly.
I continued because I knew I might lose my nerve if I stopped.
"You promised your mother a house. You promised Melissa two hundred thousand dollars. You told me we had enough money for you to retire."
"I was trying to help them."
"I understand that."
"Then why are you treating me like I've done something terrible?"
I put my fork down.
"Because you didn't ask me."
He looked away.
For a moment, I thought he might finally hear me.
Then he said, "I thought you would understand."
That was the problem.
He had thought I would understand.
He had assumed I would adjust.
He had decided that my agreement would eventually follow his decision, as it usually had.
"I might have agreed to help them," I said. "I might have agreed that you could retire. But I deserved to be part of those conversations."
Mark rubbed his hands together.
"I didn't think it would matter this much."
"It matters because Dad just died."
His expression softened slightly.
I saw something like guilt pass over his face.
Then it was gone.
"I know you're grieving," he said.
I looked at him.
"Do you?"
He didn't answer.
I regretted the question as soon as I asked it.
Not because it was unfair.
Because I knew there was no simple answer.
Mark had not lost my father.
He had lost a man he had known for years, a man who had been part of our family.
But I had lost the person who had been there before every other relationship in my life.
I didn't expect Mark to feel exactly what I felt.
I had expected him to recognize that I was hurting.
That was all.
I finished my lunch and carried the plate to the sink.
Mark didn't follow me.
For the rest of the afternoon, we kept to separate rooms.
I worked through the remaining paperwork.
He watched television.
Neither of us mentioned Diane's house or Melissa's debt.
That evening, I found him standing by the kitchen table.
The laptop was open.
The house listing was gone.
He had a blank document on the screen.
"What are you doing?" I asked.
"Nothing."
He closed the laptop.
I didn't press him.
The next day, Diane called me directly.
I was surprised to see her name on my phone.
For a second, I considered letting it ring.
Then I answered.
"Hello, Diane."
"Clare, I hope I'm not bothering you."
"You're not."
She sounded hesitant.
"I wanted to check on you."
"Thank you."
There was a pause.
"I know things have been difficult."
I sat down near the window.
"They have."
"I hope you don't think I expect you to make any decisions right away."
I thought of the ranch houses near Westerville.
"I don't think you expect me to do anything," I said carefully. "I just think Mark got ahead of himself."
Diane was quiet.
Then she sighed.
"He does that sometimes."
I hadn't expected her to admit it.
She continued.
"He gets an idea in his head, and once he's decided it's the right thing, he starts acting as if it's already happened."
I looked out at the street.
"Yes. He does."
"I should have been more careful at dinner. I was excited, and I let myself imagine things."
Her honesty softened something in me.
"I understand."
"I don't want you to feel pressured, Clare."
"I appreciate that."
We spoke for a few more minutes.
She asked how I was sleeping and whether I had enough help with the arrangements.
Before she hung up, she said she was sorry about Dad.
This time, I believed she was speaking to me rather than to the situation.
After the call, I sat by the window for a while.
The afternoon light had moved across the floor.
I thought about how easily the dinner had changed once Mark started making promises.
Diane had not forced him to offer a house.
Melissa had not demanded two hundred thousand dollars at the table.
Mark had volunteered everything.
They had accepted his words because they trusted him, or because they wanted to believe him.
I could understand that.
I had believed his words for years, too.
The following morning, Samuel called to confirm that he had received the remaining paperwork.
He said there were still matters to review and that he would contact me when the next step was ready.
I thanked him.
Then I put my phone down and looked at the blue tie on the dresser.
I had brought it home from Dad's house because I couldn't bear to leave it behind.
Now I folded it carefully and placed it in a drawer where I could find it again.
I didn't need to keep every object in sight to remember him.
I only needed to stop treating his death as something I could finish handling if I stayed busy enough.
That afternoon, Mark asked whether I wanted to go for a walk.
I almost said no.
Then I decided that we had spent enough time avoiding each other.
We walked around the neighborhood without choosing a destination.
At first, we talked about ordinary things.
A neighbor's new fence.
A car parked across the sidewalk.
The weather turning cooler.
Eventually, Mark slowed near the corner.
"I shouldn't have quit without talking to you," he said.
I stopped walking.
It wasn't a complete apology.
But it was the first time he had acknowledged the decision itself.
"No," I said. "You shouldn't have."
He looked at the pavement.
"I thought I was doing something good."
"I know you did."
"I wanted to help Mom and Melissa."
"I know."
He glanced at me.
"Do you think we can work this out?"
I took a breath.
"I think we can talk about it honestly."
He nodded.
We started walking again.
I wanted to believe that the conversation meant something had changed.
But I had learned not to confuse a single admission with a settled problem.
We still had to face what he had promised.
We still had to decide what our marriage would look like if I stopped letting his decisions become my obligations.
And we still had to hear what Samuel had been trying to explain.
For now, I was willing to wait.
Not because Mark had asked me to.
Because I wanted the truth before I made my own decisions.
Click here to continue reading: PART 8: The Question That Changed Everything Was Not About How Much Money My Father Had, but What I Was Willing to Promise
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