By the time the girls were three months old, I had settled into a routine.
It wasn't an easy routine.
It was simply the one that worked.
I knew which supplies I needed to keep close.
I knew how to prepare for the moments when both babies wanted attention at the same time.
I knew that making plans around their needs was easier than pretending I could control everything.
There were days when I barely noticed how tired I was until evening arrived.
There were other days when the smallest inconvenience felt enormous.
But I kept going.
Ava and Mia depended on me.
That made the decisions simple, even when the work was not.
Ryan remained part of our days through the calls he managed to make.
I looked forward to hearing his voice.
I wanted to share the ordinary things with him because those were the things that made up our lives.
A new expression on Ava's face.
The way Mia settled when I held her close.
A moment when both girls were quiet at the same time.
Nothing special to anyone else.
Everything to me.
Ryan often sounded impatient to return.
He said he wanted to see how much the girls had grown.
He wanted to hold them rather than look at them through pictures.
He wanted to be home.
Whenever he said those things, I let myself imagine that the difficult part was nearly over.
I thought about what it would feel like to have another adult in the house.
I thought about being able to hand him one of the babies without explaining every little thing.
I thought about watching him learn their habits.
Mostly, I thought about how happy I would be to see him again.
I missed my husband.
That was the truth I kept returning to.
I missed the familiar sound of his voice when he was in the same room.
I missed having someone to tell the small details of my day.
I missed being able to look at another person and know that we were both responsible for the same life.
The girls had filled our home with love.
They had not made me stop wanting my husband beside me.
Then I learned that his ship would soon be returning.
I remember how quickly my mood changed.
The information was simple.
His assignment was nearly finished, and the ship was scheduled to dock.
But to me, it meant the end of a long stretch of waiting.
It meant that the girls would finally meet their father.
It meant that I would no longer have to explain his absence to myself every time I looked at their faces.
I wanted the reunion to be special.
Ryan and I had already discussed what would happen when he returned.
I was supposed to remain at home.
He would come back to us after the ship docked.
It was a sensible arrangement.
Traveling with two three-month-old babies was not easy, and there was no practical reason for me to make the journey.
But I kept thinking about the expression on his face when he saw Ava and Mia.
I imagined him walking into the house, expecting to see me alone.
Then he would notice the babies.
He would stop.
He would look at them.
And I would get to watch him realize that the two little people he had been waiting to meet were finally there in front of him.
I knew the surprise would require effort.
I would have to organize the babies' things.
I would have to arrange the journey.
I would have to make sure we had everything we needed before leaving.
Still, the idea stayed with me.
Every time I thought about it, I pictured the same moment.
Ryan seeing the girls.
Ryan smiling.
Ryan reaching for them.
I wanted to give him that memory.
Perhaps I wanted to give myself one, too.
The months since his departure had been difficult in ways I hadn't fully admitted.
I had done what needed to be done.
I had learned to care for two babies without him.
But I still wanted a moment when the distance between us finally disappeared.
I wanted to feel that we had made it through something together.
I wanted to believe that the wait had brought us to a happy beginning.
So I made my decision.
I would surprise him.
The day before his arrival, I arranged the tickets.
I gathered the girls' essentials and checked everything more than once.
There were practical things to consider.
The babies needed their supplies.
They needed to be comfortable.
I needed to make sure I could manage the journey with both of them.
I went through the preparations carefully because I didn't want anything to interfere with the surprise.
I didn't tell Ryan.
That was the whole point.
I wanted him to see us without warning.
I wanted the first moment to belong to the four of us.
I imagined him asking why I had come all that way.
I imagined telling him that I couldn't wait another day to see him.
I imagined him laughing and reaching for his daughters.
The picture in my head was so clear that I treated it like a memory from a future that had already been promised to me.
I did not consider the possibility that I was the only person looking forward to our reunion in that way.
The night before we left, I checked the babies' things again.
I wanted everything ready.
I wanted the journey to go smoothly.
I wanted to arrive with enough time to find a place where I could wait without feeling rushed.
I remember feeling nervous.
Not frightened.
Not suspicious.
Just nervous in the way people get when they are about to do something they hope will matter.
I had spent months waiting for Ryan to return.
Now I was going to meet him first.
That thought made me smile.
I could already picture his surprise.
I could almost hear him saying my name.
I could imagine the look on his face when he saw the girls.
I let myself enjoy those thoughts because I needed something pleasant to anticipate.
The following day, I traveled to the city where his ship was scheduled to dock.
The girls came with me.
I kept my attention on them throughout the journey, making sure they had what they needed.
They were too young to understand why we were traveling.
They didn't know that their father was about to return.
They didn't know that I had imagined this day over and over again.
They simply depended on me to keep them safe and comfortable.
I carried that responsibility as I always did.
But beneath the ordinary work of caring for them, I felt a happiness I had not experienced in weeks.
We were going to see Ryan.
At last.
When we reached the harbor, I made my way toward the cruise terminal.
The place was busy with people waiting for passengers, people arriving to meet relatives, and people moving through the terminal with luggage.
I found a place where I could wait with the girls.
Then I began watching the passengers emerge.
I tried to be patient.
Every person who appeared made me wonder whether Ryan might be nearby.
I shifted my attention between the crowd and the babies.
I checked that they were settled.
I looked up again.
The ship had returned.
Ryan was somewhere among the people coming ashore.
For the first time in months, the distance between us was measured in steps rather than miles.
I felt my heart begin to race.
I had come all this way to surprise him.
I wanted to see his face before he saw mine.
I wanted to catch the first moment of recognition.
I wanted to watch the man I loved discover that his family had come to meet him.
Then I saw him.
And for one brief second, everything was exactly as I had imagined.
There he was.
Ryan.
My husband.
The man I had spent months waiting to welcome home.
My first instinct was to call his name.
I was ready to lift my hand and wave.
I was ready to smile so widely that he would know how happy I was.
Then I noticed the woman beside him.
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