Theo came over several times during the weeks that followed.
Sometimes he stayed for an hour.
Sometimes he ate dinner with us.
Sometimes he knocked, stepped inside, and sat at the kitchen table without saying much at all.
I stopped asking whether he wanted to stay.
I simply made enough food.
It felt natural.
It had always been natural.
There were days when I looked toward the hallway and expected to hear Jack calling for him.
There were moments when Theo laughed at something on his phone, and I had to remind myself that the sound was coming from someone else.
The house was learning a new rhythm.
So were we.
Daniel returned to work when he was ready.
I found myself doing ordinary tasks in small pieces.
Laundry.
Shopping.
Answering messages.
Putting away things that had been sitting on the counter for days.
None of it made the grief disappear.
But the tasks gave the hours a shape.
Theo had his own life to continue.
He still had schoolwork.
He still had family responsibilities.
He still had days when he didn't want to talk about Jack.
I tried not to mistake those days for distance.
He had spent a long time being present for my son.
He was allowed to be tired.
One afternoon, he sat at the kitchen table while I sorted through a stack of papers.
He watched me move the same sheet from one pile to another.
"Mrs. Harris?"
I looked up.
"You can call me by my first name, you know."
He smiled faintly.
"I know."
He paused.
"Do you ever get angry with him?"
The question caught me off guard.
"With Jack?"
Theo nodded.
I put down the paper.
"Sometimes."
He looked surprised.
"Really?"
"Not because he was sick. Not because he died."
I took a breath.
"Sometimes I get angry that he didn't tell me things. Then I feel guilty because I know he was trying not to hurt me."
Theo looked down at his hands.
"I think he did that with a lot of people."
I waited.
"He didn't want anybody to feel worse than they already did."
I nodded.
"I think you're right."
Theo traced a small circle on the table with one finger.
"I was scared he'd think I didn't understand."
"Understand what?"
He took a moment to answer.
"That he was still himself."
I felt the words in my chest.
Theo continued.
"Sometimes I didn't know what to say. I thought I should be able to make him feel better because I'd known him so long."
He looked toward the hallway.
"But I couldn't."
I moved the papers aside.
"You didn't have to make him feel better every time."
Theo's eyes filled.
"I know that now."
He looked at me.
"I just wanted him to have somebody who didn't make him feel like everything was about being sick."
I reached across the table and took his hand.
"You gave him that."
Theo shook his head slightly.
"I don't know if I did enough."
I squeezed his fingers.
"Neither do I."
The honesty seemed to surprise him.
I had spent so much time trying to comfort people with reassurance.
I had wanted to tell Theo that he had done everything perfectly.
But I couldn't know that.
None of us could know whether we had done enough.
We could only know that we had tried to love Jack as well as we understood how.
And Theo had loved him too.
He had shown up.
He had stayed.
He had made the promise.
Those things mattered.
After a while, Theo wiped his face and sat back.
"Jack was funny about the dress."
I smiled through my tears.
"What did he say?"
Theo gave a small laugh.
"He told me I was going to look better than everybody else."
I laughed too.
It came out unexpectedly.
For a second, I heard Jack in the words.
I could imagine him saying it with complete confidence, then looking at Theo as if the argument were already settled.
Theo smiled.
"He said I wasn't allowed to change my mind just because people might stare."
I shook my head.
"That sounds like him."
"He was very sure of himself."
"Only when it suited him."
Theo laughed again.
The sound filled the kitchen.
It didn't make me feel guilty this time.
I let myself enjoy it.
Then the laughter faded, and we sat quietly.
The red dress had become something I thought about often.
Not because I wanted to see it again.
Because it reminded me of how quickly I had judged someone I loved.
It reminded me that I could be wrong even when I was frightened.
And it reminded me that Jack had left pieces of himself in the people around him.
Theo carried one of those pieces.
Daniel and I carried others.
We would never have the same memories of our son.
We would never understand every conversation he had held close.
But we could listen when someone shared a part of him we hadn't known.
That was what Theo had given us at the funeral.
Not an explanation that made everything easy.
A chance to understand our son a little more fully.
One evening, Daniel joined us at the table.
He had been quiet for most of dinner.
When Theo stood to take his plate to the sink, Daniel spoke.
"Thank you for coming over."
Theo turned.
"Of course."
Daniel shook his head.
"I mean it."
He paused.
"I know that being here probably hurts."
Theo looked toward Jack's empty chair.
"It does."
Daniel nodded.
"It hurts us too."
For a moment, neither said anything.
Then Daniel added, "But I don't want you to feel that you have to stay away because of that."
Theo's eyes filled.
"I don't want to stay away."
"Then don't."
Daniel's voice broke slightly.
"You're family to us."
Theo lowered his head.
I watched him struggle to answer.
Finally, he nodded.
"Thank you."
Daniel stood and put a hand on his shoulder.
There was no grand speech.
No promise that the grief would get easier.
Just a hand resting on a young man's shoulder, and a father trying to make sure his son's best friend knew he was still welcome.
I looked toward the spare room.
We had stopped calling it that years ago.
It was Theo's room.
The bed was still there.
The clean sheets were folded in the cupboard.
The room had become part of our family long before we understood how much it would matter.
I didn't know how often Theo would need to stay there in the future.
I didn't need to know.
The room didn't have to be occupied every night to belong to him.
Some things remain true even when life changes.
The next time Theo came over, he walked straight into the kitchen and opened the cupboard to find a glass.
I watched him do it.
He didn't ask where the glasses were.
He didn't look around to see whether he was allowed.
He simply reached for one.
I felt a quiet gratitude.
Jack had once made room for his friend without asking anyone's permission.
We had followed his lead.
Now we needed to keep doing that, even though he wasn't here to remind us.
I knew there would be difficult days.
There would be anniversaries.
There would be holidays when an empty chair hurt more than it had the year before.
There would be moments when the memory of the funeral returned without warning.
But I also knew that we didn't have to face those days by pretending the people who loved Jack were strangers to one another.
Theo was still part of our lives.
And Jack was still part of the reason why.
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